Have your ever lived the old adage:
“Some Days You Are the Bug and Some Days You Are the Windshield?”
Well, yesterday was one of those days for me.
Having actually learned something over the past 4 years studying aging and Baby Boomers and how meaningful our lives can truly be, I decided to step back and contemplate what happened in an objective manner instead of making any rash decisions.
I asked myself and I ask you as well:
Are you doing the right things?
Do you love what you are doing?
Has it been a good year?
Are you happy?
Have you improved yourself?
Do you make others happy?
After thinking about these questions all day my perspective on what had happened changed.
I realized I was no longer the bug.
How are you answering these questions?
Hopefully, you can join me in shouting “Hell Yes.”
But, I realize, sometimes we still need validation there are others our age that feel the same way we do, are going through the same life trials we are and have the same concerns and fears that we live with.
It’s always nice to know what others our age are thankful for, what they have accomplished this year and what makes them feel good about being 50+ years old.
They used a Facebook post to ask their followers from around the world to let them know what they like about being middle aged.
Well, you can imagine that there was no shortage of sayings that poked fun at growing older:
“After 45 your ‘get up and go’ gets up and goes”
“Middle age is when your age starts to show around your middle”
“Life not only begins at 40, it begins to show”
Hey, if you can’t laugh at yourself who can you laugh at?
At Huff Post, they say they celebrate the idea that life can begin at 50 or 60 — or even 90.
I love that attitude.
That’s what puts the “Boom” in the “Baby Boomer” generation.
That’s what “Survive 55” is all about.
But, there are also innumerable reasons to feel good about being middle aged.
Studies show that, as you age, your time horizons shorten and you prioritize the things you’ve learned that you like.
As a result, older people often are happier than younger ones.
That’s absolutely, positively correct.
Here’s a few of my favorite responses from this survey:
1) “Loving and accepting yourself just the way you are,” said Foxie Shazzam.
2) “To quote the song ‘Hands’ by Jewel … that only kindness really matters in the end. Being nearly 56 years old, I have come to recognize that money is not important, belongings are not important … what is important are people,” said Jan Hobbs.
3) Middle age is “not too old to be ignored,” said Anna Cornwall Wisdom.
4) “Living long enough to appreciate your parents and long enough to have your children appreciate you,” said Cheryl Simon Ekstrom.
5) “Less hair to comb, accepting slip-on shoes as an alternative foot ware,” said Jon Lieurance.
6) “Just seeing your kids grown and see how good of a parent you are, feeling old never … Well when I look in the mirror lol … But also you get a lot smarter …” said Solrun Bjork Björgvinsdóttir-Hunt.
7) “Going with the flow,” said Sue Bastien.
8) “You learn not to care about what others think or say about you,” said Susanah Stone.
9) “Priorities are straight now,” said Irene Madrid.
10) “Clearer skin and you don’t have to wash your hair so much,” said Robyn Schattner.
11) “Appreciating yourself and others for who you are and what you can be,” said Jake Naughtme.
12) “You can burn both ends from the middle,”said Lee Enry Erickson.
13) “Being grandparents, done having little ones, house finally spotless. And being able to go and come whenever. But I do not feel middle aged at 53,” said Solrun Bjork Björgvinsdóttir-Hunt.
14) “Probably not caring so much what people think. Not totally, but maybe 90-95% of the time. It’s something that has happened only in the last 6-12 months,” said Jeff Johnson.
15) “Being able to go out at night and stay out as late as I want with no one else to worry about,” said Carol Vixen.
16) ”No longer feeling like I have to pretend I like something just because someone else does if I really truly do not,” said Mary White.
17) “Not worrying about what others think of me,”said Kat Story Lang.
18) “Knowing who you are, not having to prove yourself, seeing your kids succeed as adults,” said Kathy McFarland Sciannella.
19) “Well, the best thing was being ABLE to remember things,” said Judy Schneider.
20) “Grandchildren!” said Marti Gilley.
21) “Good Companionship,” said Darla Sanders
22) “Experience and relationships over things,” said Foxie Shazzam.
23) “Making new friends who are very different from other (old) friends,” said Robin Bailey-Chen.
24) “Respect,” said Charles Houde.
25) “Having the luxury to do as I please. Investing wisely and living frugally has finally paid off. Feeling very fortunate,” said Cathie Boyer.
It’s a beautiful thing when you see that other folks our age are just as thankful as we are for the same things.
I have always been a huge advocate of appreciating the “simple things” in life.
There is no better time to give thanks for what we have than right now.
It sure feels good not being the “bug.”
If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting or even funny I bet your friends would to.
It’s easy to tell them about it.
Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.
The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!
Thanks for joining me………………………………………………….